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The Best Men on Sex and the City (the main four did not end up with) * I HATE AIDAN *

I am a huge Sex and the City fan. So much so, I named my site "The Hot Child in the City" after the song by Nick Gilder, which I first heard in Season 3, Episode 15. So, here's comes my list of my favorite men the main four did not end up with.


16. Sean


Photo from https://www.insider.com/sex-and-the-city-famous-cameos-2018-3

If Carrie was so uncomfortable with him being bisexual then she should have stopped seeing him. Instead she drags him along, sleeps with him and ghosts him. He was cute, respectful and didn’t deserve that.


15. Dr. Robert Leeds


Photo from https://www.insider.com/sex-and-the-city-famous-cameos-2018-3

Although he didn’t take the breakup well at all, he was amazing to Miranda whilst in the relationship. He just wasn’t her person. So can I date him?


14. James


Photo from https://www.eonline.com/photos/14214/we-ranked-all-the-sex-and-the-city-relationships

Although Samantha had some problems with him in the bedroom, and another bad breakup, he was such a sweetheart.


13. Joe - The New Yankee


Photo from https://www.eonline.com/photos/14214/we-ranked-all-the-sex-and-the-city-relationships

He’d be a perfect boyfriend for someone other than Carrie who was just using him to make Big jealous.


12. Ray King


Photo from https://carriebradshawistheworst.com/2020/07/10/season-4-episode-3-defining-moments/

Great sex. Great job. Carrie couldn’t deal with his ADD (that she, a licensed doctor, diagnosed him with smh). She’s trash.


11. The Lonely Irish Doorman


Photo from https://www.reddit.com/r/sexandthecity/comments/gn2shv/anyone_else_think_the_irish_doorman_from_s1_e3/

A king!


10. Luke Gilmore - The Farmer


Photo by https://www.imcdb.org/v177804.html

POV you rent a country cabin for the weekend, look out the window and see this, what do you do?


9. Chivon


Photo from https://www.vice.com/en/article/wjbp34/sex-and-the-city-people-of-color-date

This whole episode was a mess. Chivon was a great man.


Check out this Vanity Fair interview with actress Sundra Oakley who played Chivon's sister Adeena:




8. John - The Fuck Buddy


Photo from https://www.reddit.com/r/sexandthecity/comments/gry9ec/allstate_mayhem_as_carries_fuck_buddy_is_one_of/

Another relationship Carrie "fucked" up. It’s okay to have a fuck buddy, Carrie. You don’t have to date him. It would be one thing if she was starting to fall for him and had an adult conversation about it, but no. Carrie just bombards him with an awful dinner date because she has to have a boyfriend at all times.


I don't care what anyone says. He will always be Dennis Duffy to me:



7. Walker Lewis


Photo from https://www.thecut.com/2018/06/all-94-sex-and-the-city-flings-ranked.html

Why couldn’t they go back to his hotel and hook up instead of Miranda’s? He said he wasn’t a baby person. Miranda didn’t want to date him, just sleep with him. Whatever.


6. Ben


Photo by https://www.bodyandsoul.com.au/sex-relationships/dating-advice/forget-big-and-aiden-ben-was-the-best-boyfriend-on-sex-and-the-city/news-story/22fdce78af4d5337dff863810f17aa1e

Great job. Respectful. Kind. So cute. AND wore glasses! Carrie fumbled the bag on this one by rummaging through his belongings. Fine, Ben’s available to date me!


5. Jeff


Photo from https://www.televisionofyore.com/recaps-of-sex-and-the-city/sex-and-the-city-season-3-episode-2

A fun, two week fling Samantha had. He made her laugh and adored her.


4. Baird - The Photographer


Photo from https://www.insider.com/charlotte-york-sex-and-the-city-satc-boyfriends-ranked-2022-12#baird-johnson-was-a-photographer-with-open-ideas-about-gender-he-was-sexy-and-exciting-10

Artistic and out of the box for Charlotte.


3. Tom Reymi


Photo from https://www.reddit.com/r/sexandthecity/comments/ytvzig/what_is_your_unpopular_satc_couple_that_you_wish/

A guy who advocates for safe sex. A keeper. Or whatever Samantha’s term for it is.


2. Smith



Photos from


This one is a no brainer. He was the best!


1. Shmuel - The Hasidic Folk Artist


Still from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-zg2U3ZT_u0

Charlotte was always destined to be a Jew.

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